The Enneagram Type Four: Our Whimsical Take on Finding Essential Oils, Natural Crystals, and Affirmations for Emotional Support

If you’re familiar with the Enneagram, you know that the Enneagram Type Four is a truly unique and special type. In fact, they’re often called the individualists because they pride themselves on being different and unlike anybody else. 

In this article, we’re shining a light on the sensitive, expressive Type Four. We’ll look at:

  • What is the Enneagram Type 4? 
  • Is Enneagram Type 4 rare? 
  • How a Type Four can grow and find emotional support?
  • Which crystals, essential oils, and affirmations can help a Four? 
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and more!   

What is the Enneagram Type 4?

Type Fours are sandwiched squarely between the loyal, security-valuing Six and the ambitious, get-it-done Three, but you’d be hard-pressed to mistake a Four for either type! Fours have a very rich inner world and are usually sensitive to their environments. They are often creative, as they have a deep urge to express themselves. 

A Type Four’s greatest fear is being insignificant or having no identity, and Fours who fear this or feel insecure or stressed will fall into deep melancholy, and become very self-absorbed or even disdainful of people around them. Unhealthy Fours can be difficult for others to get along with, but healthy Fours bring a tremendous creative gift to the world! 

In stress, Fours become possessive and moody like Twos, but in security and integration, healthy Fours become like healthy Ones–helping to create a beautiful and ideal version of the world. 

Is the Enneagram Type 4 Rare?

Type Fours are considered the most rare of all the Enneagram types, which fits their personalities perfectly ;). Sixes, in case you’re wondering, are considered to be the most common type. 

Keep in mind, however, that no type is better than the other. In fact, that’s why the Enneagram is represented by a circle: every type is connected, necessary, and deeply valuable!  

How Do I Become a Healthier Enneagram 4? 

Enneagram Fours are one of the lowest-energy types of the Enneagram. And, they’re often so focused on the magical, visionary life they want, that they struggle with mundane, everyday tasks, like going to the grocery store. 

In typical Four fashion, this struggle can begin to look like disdain or contempt: a Four can get very judgy with other personalities who can do the everyday things easily, but struggle to express their emotions. 

One of the ways Four become healthier is by recognizing their tendencies and patterns. They can choose to understand and respect their lower levels of energy and deep need to recharge (and plan their lives accordingly); they can also choose to suspend judgement and approach others with less criticism and more gentle kindness. 

This is what’s so powerful about the Enneagram: we learn to extend grace to ourselves and others as we learn that everybody has struggles and gifts to offer the world. As a Four becomes healthier, they’ll come to grips with their own gifts and struggles, and can choose to press into community and connection, rather than criticism, condemnation, or competition.

This process takes time (and you’ll definitely fail a couple thousand times along the way!), but that’s why we love leaning into natural supports like essential oils, crystals, and affirmations. When we use all three together, we find so much emotional support, focus, and the energy to tap into our gifts and become the honest, beautiful people we are.         

Here are our favorite natural helps for Enneagram Type Fours: 

Crystals for the Enneagram Type Four 

Our favorite crystals for Type Four are: 

  • Black onyx 
  • Carnelian 
  • Hematite 
  • Citrine 

There are tons of ways to use crystals (you can learn more about crystals and the Enneagram here) but we love to either hold them or use them in essential oil roller bottles (like in our Crystals by Feeling or Need Collection or our bestselling Crystal Roller Bottles for Essential Oils). Either way, they combine beautifully with the affirmations and essential oils below. 

Black onyx is a “deep waters” kind of stone that mirrors the depths of a Four’s soul. It can help with grief and decision-making–both of these can be overwhelming for Fours. 

Carnelian helps to restore lost motivation and it stimulates creativity. 

Hematite’s deep red color has often been associated with life and a deep earth connection, helping to revive and inspire a tired Four. 

Citrine is the creativity stone! It can help Fours tap into their superpowers as creative, visionary people. 

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Essential Oils for the Enneagram Type Four 

Our favorite essential oils for Type Fours are: 

  • Grapefruit 
  • Neroli 

Grapefruit is an energizing, cleansing oil that can help lift the mood (and even help with depression or anxiety). 

We’ve chosen neroli because of how unique it is–just like a Four! It can help a Four relieve overwhelming emotions and stimulate creativity. 

Psst–we’ve written more about how to use essential oils for your Enneagram type right here

Affirmations for the Enneagram Type Four 

These affirmations for Type Fours are beautiful ways to help you support yourself emotionally and work toward inner healing. We’ve included several in our Enneagram Type Four roller bottles:  

  • I choose to move towards community rather than comparison 
  • I am more than my emotions 
  • The mundane details of life help me live the magical life I want 
  • A bad first draft gets me closer to something amazing 
  • I choose joy over perfection 
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Are you a Type Four? We’d love to hear YOUR favorite affirmations, crystals, and essential oils in the comments below!

Ready for more on the Enneagram? Check out our posts on the Type NineType Eight, Type SevenType SixType FiveType ThreeType Two, and Type One!

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